Watching steamy scenes can be erotic for some people but if you get to know how difficult it is to perform it without getting turned on and in front of 100 people and cameras, you will understand the real pain of actors.
Well, here are some actors sharing their “dil ki baat” when it comes to doing sex scenes in a movie –
“You can literally be tangled in sheets and you turn to the other actor and say, ‘What the fuck are we doing?’ Dear Mum, at work today I had so-and-so’s left nut sack pressed against my cheek. It’s sort of unethical if you think about it in those terms.”
Leonardo DiCaprio, on Wolf of Wall Street
“It was all me, pal. All the flopping around, all the everything was all me. When you take on a character like this and you want to accurately reflect the nature of who these people are, you just gotta do it. You can’t think about yourself, because it’s not me, it’s a depiction of somebody else.”
Robert Pattinson, on Breaking Dawn
“I think the more comfortable you are with each other, the harder it gets to do any kind of really intense relationship scene. You’re kind of thinking, ‘I don’t want to embarrass myself in front of this person.”
“For some actors/actresses it’s the most uncomfortable part of a shoot. I heard Cybil Sheppard say she hated the bed scenes with Bruce Willis. She said he used to fart right at the wrong moment and that would embarrass her. He would make comments and tickle her under the covers. But it all made for great fun when they did the editing.”
Dakota Johnson, On Fifty Shades of Grey
“Filming a sex scene is not a sensual or pleasurable environment. It’s really hot – not in a steamy, sexual way. It’s just sweaty and not very comfortable. On top of that, my hands and legs were tied, I was blindfolded and I was being hit with this bizarre tool. It was emotionally taxing.”
Jamie Dornan, On Fifty Shades of Grey
“Your dignity is intact as much as it’s all tucked away in a little flesh-coloured bag. As a guy you put all your essentials in a little bag and you tie it up like a little bag of grapes and it’s tucked away.”
Anne Hathaway, On Love and Other Drugs
“There is that revoltingly embarrassing moment when you have to take your clothes off in front of strangers. I mean, I don’t go to the beach in a bikini for a reason. So I thought,OK, I’m going to be in control. I’m going to do everything properly, disrobe at the last minute, and in between shots get the clothes back on. But then I found that every time I put my robe back on, it rubbed all the body makeup off, and that added 20 minutes to filming. As with all things in life, the second you stop making it about you and you make it about everyone else, it just got, dare I say, fun.”
“You try and create a situation where there are possibilities. I’ve always thought that sort of grabbed sex is more fun than that statuesque sort of bedroom stuff. So in “Fatal Attraction,” the scene where they [have sex] over the sink, I knew it had humorous possibilities because there was plates and cups in the sink. If you don’t get some humor in, the audience will laugh at you, because they’re nervous watching it.”
What do the Directors have to say –
Lena Dunham, on Girls
“I will be lying there, kind of being slammed by a naked body, thinking, ‘I want out of this scene. I want out of this life. Who did this to me?’ And I realized, I’m my own boss. I’ve written it. I’m directing it. I’m the person holding myself in sexual slavery.”
Angelina Jolie, In the Land of Blood and Honey
“You kind of suddenly feel this strange thing of asking people to participate in anything like that because they’re not a real couple. You find out how strange this is to ask anybody to get naked together and put a camera on them. [The actors] actually made me more comfortable. I was being a lot more prudish. I would have allowed them to be more prudish and they told me it was all right and important for the story. They wanted to do what they wanted to do and they were comfortable.”
“We did have rehearsals and to make the actors feel comfortable initially, look at how we might photograph the sex. Also, that suited the first few sex scenes, to have a slight awkwardness to them; the camera would be more at a distance. In the Red Room, when things heat up a little bit, that was less choreographed. Sometimes we would use a remotely operated camera head so the actors wouldn’t have an operator leaning in.”
“There’s a difference between the way that sex scenes are written and performed. We do have detailed stage directions. A lot changes on the day you’re shooting sex scenes, because they are so vulnerable for the actors. Some actors would say it’s them at the most honest.
The question being, do the actors have to be turned on?
“It’s definitely not unheard of to get an erection while filming but I’ve heard of quite a few instances where the actor either says that they had tape to hold ‘it’ down or some sort of sleeve thing that attached to their leg. Some also say that its actually quite hard to get aroused because you’re surrounded by camera men and lighting and so many people it just makes it uncomfortable.”
“I’ve never seen an actor with an erection, in all of the films and the sex scenes that I’ve done, but it doesn’t mean that I haven’t seen a guy being excited. It’s so technical, but we’re humans, and they’re naked, and they touch each other.”
Ryan Gosling, On Notebook
“You mean the trying-not-to-have-sex sex scene? It was hard … a lot of times actors can trick people into thinking something is happening when it’s not happening, and we had to call ourselves out on anything that didn’t feel honest. Actors become very professional and proficient about watching out for each others light and not stepping on each others lines. All of these things are artificial, and you have to strip that away if you’re going to achieve a sense of intimacy. In real life sex is messy, and we wanted to get at that wonderful messiness.”
“The scene wouldn’t be working if they weren’t. Obviously, you’re not literally doing penetration but they’re both aroused; they would have to be; otherwise the scene would be hopeless.”
Ummm, This is enough, I guess!